Two recent incidents redefined Secularism for me. Would state them as bland as possible so that you can draw your own conclusion.
First was one I was told happened. There was this CEO of an MNC in Bangalore. This man was from a Scandinavian Country running a large Engineering Unit in Bangalore. For two weeks he worked from Dawn to Mid Night. At the end of those two weeks his driver was fed up and on Friday Night the poor man said *I Can’t take it any more. I won’t be coming to work from tomorrow*. Next day being a Saturday was an holiday, the Boss did not bother. But on Sunday Morning he was a little unhappy as he had to go to Mass.
Exactly at the time when he would start for the Church the door bell rang. Opening the door he found his driver there. Boss attended Mass and came back. The driver returned the key and spoke for the first time. The driver said *You always go to Church on Sundays. I did not want to spoil it. I wont be coming tomorrow. Get a new driver* and vanished.
The Second was one I was a part of. A week back we had the Ayudha Pooja. There was a series of Pujas in the company where I work. Typical of our group most seniors were Iyengars (Vaishnavaites). When the Prohit offered the Aarti after the Puja the more Orthodox among them never took the Aarthi. The Iyengars do not take the aarthi. It is something to do with other Gods. Even in the most orthodox vaishnavaite temple we would not do that. That is how we pray.
I was reminded of the huge outcry against Modi on the Topi issue and the later retort on Hamid Ansari not taking Aarthi at Ram Leela Maidan.
My take on Secularism: You see your neighbour kiss his wife? Wave to them and move on. You don’t have to participate.